Episode 015: The Adventure of Letting Go

Feb 8, 2016

 

Becky and Diana discuss the value in letting go of things that no longer serve you.

LET GO OF:

Ideas and Expectations

• When you let go of ideas that no longer work for you, you make room for new ones to grow.
• Diana recommends the book Essentialism, by Greg McKeown, as a great resource to identify what is most important to you, so you can be more comfortable letting things go.
• Even when you know something isn’t working it you can find yourself comfortable in the craziness. This makes it hard to let go.
• Other people’s expectations of us are often in our own minds
• Communication is critical, remember to ask instead of assuming what others need from you.
• “An expectation is a premeditated disappointment.”

 

That Internal Voice

• Erase the tapes repeating in your thoughts that don’t support you and your goals and replace them with better ones.
• Strategy: Writing down how you see a situation in a negative light, then rewrite the situation from a positive point of view. Feel free to destroy the negative one.

 People and Places

• People can be very hard to let go of because of the emotional connection.
• Even people who influence you negatively can be hard to let go of because you have gotten used to the behavior and even negative attention is attention.
• People come into our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Learn to identify their purpose.
• Give yourself permission to let people go, it makes room in your life for new relationships.
• Strategies for letting people go include being up front if you can, or let it run its course naturally, or lovingly detach from the person.
• Listen to the voice that tells you it’s time to move on from a place, job, or organization.

The Past

• You have permission to learn from the past and release it.
• Focus on the lessons you’ve learned, not the experiences.
• Releasing old experiences makes room for new ones.

Stamp of Brilliance

When you learn from those smelly little life lessons, they can serve as the foundation of future successes.