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Uniquely Brilliant Podcast

The podcast with strategies for creative, quirky, and extraordinary people of all ages. Diana Bader and Becky Berry accompany you on the adventure of living with unique brilliance. Whether or not you have an ADD, ADHD, Asperger's, or dyslexia, learn and share strategies from uniquely brilliant people and other experts in differences. If you sense your ideas, dreams, and thoughts are just a little bit bigger than "normal," and you are tired of feeling lost, frustrated or just plain wrong, this podcast is for you! Learn how to squelch those voices in your head that say you're wrong because you think differently and learn how to reclaim your best self!
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Mar 27, 2017

Becky and Diana talk about the difficulties that ensue when we take critiques and mistakes personally.

  • When someone criticizes your work, do you feel like they’re criticizing you?
  • It can be hard to separate ourselves from our work, but we must.
  • We need to maintain space between who we are and the work do so we can maintain our objectivity.
  • We are not the products/ work we create.
  • Taking things personally is like donning one heavy coat for every critical comment and carrying them around with us!
  • One of the most effective skills to develop for handling critiques and mistakes is to have a short memory. Quarterbacks do not stomp out of the stadium after a bad pass!
  • We don’t need to poll others for approval.
  • Being professional means accomplishing the role we’ve accepted in our jobs along with their standards and then performing to those standards. We are not the job.
  • When we take everything personally, we stop taking risks and stop growing.
  • The Learning Zone – where we grow by making mistakes, listening to critiques, and develop the understanding that we’re not failures.

Mar 18, 2017

Becky and Diana discuss Gretchen Rubin’s 4 Tendencies and how understanding them helps you develop successful habits.

A habit is something you do without thinking about it.

  • Most systems for developing habits tell you to employ either an “all or nothing” or “moderation” mindset.
  • When working with others it is helpful to respect their tendencies.
  • The 4 Tendencies focus on how you meet inner and outer expectations.

The 4 Tendencies:

  • Upholder - Meets both inner and outer expectations. Motto: “Discipline is my freedom.”
  • Questioner - Questions both inner and outer expectations, but makes decisions based on their inner expectations. Motto: “Convince me why, and I’ll comply.”
  • Obligers - Meets outer expectations and resists inner ones. Motto: “You can count on me and I am counting on you to count on me.”
  • Rebel - Resists both inner and outer expectations.  Motto: “You can’t make me and neither can I.”

Mar 11, 2017

Becky and Diana explore the concept of surrender. 

  • Surrender is a loaded word for many and can be misconstrued as giving up.
  • Surrender allows you to release your grip on a particular situation.
  • Surrendering to a plan gives you the space to find out if it works.
  • Surrendering to a plan is an effective way to stomp down resistance to change.
  • Surrendering to the boundaries of a situation creates focus so you can follow the course.
  • Measuring progress and seeing results makes it easier to surrender.
  • We can forget that we have surrendered before and succeeded.
  • We tend to spend more energy fighting a situation that would have worked better if we surrendered.
  • We can fall into a Lack mentality when we resist giving in.
  • Surrendering in one area gives you space to focus on other things.

 

Mar 4, 2017

Becky and Diana delve into the concept of control and why we try so hard to stay in control. 

  • It’s all about trust. Trusting others, yes, but mostly it’s about trusting ourselves.
  • There is a false sense of safety and security when we think we’re in control.
  • People want certainty.
  • Boundaries teach people how to treat you.
  • No matter how hard you try you can’t change other people.
  • Control actually limits your possibilities.
  • When you exert control over others, you don’t give them a chance to express who they are and learn from the mistakes they might make.
  • If there is a controlling person in your life, remember it is their problem. You are only responsible for your responses.
  • Always needing to be in control can be very lonely.
  • Positive reinforcement can help combat controlling people because it gives them the validation they need.

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