Becky and Diana discuss Gretchen Rubin’s 4 Tendencies and how understanding them helps you develop successful habits.
A habit is something you do without thinking about it.
- Most systems for developing habits tell you to employ either an “all or nothing” or “moderation” mindset.
- When working with others it is helpful to respect their tendencies.
- The 4 Tendencies focus on how you meet inner and outer expectations.
The 4 Tendencies:
- Upholder - Meets both inner and outer expectations. Motto: “Discipline is my freedom.”
- Questioner - Questions both inner and outer expectations, but makes decisions based on their inner expectations. Motto: “Convince me why, and I’ll comply.”
- Obligers - Meets outer expectations and resists inner ones. Motto: “You can count on me and I am counting on you to count on me.”
- Rebel - Resists both inner and outer expectations. Motto: “You can’t make me and neither can I.”